My Dad who suffers from dementia, progressing over the past year or so, lives with me. I am unhappy in my home, and there is nothing available for either one of us in the area. Also, my Dad is worsening & I need help. I am considering renting a home in a 55+ community, to give him the socialization, activities, etc., knowing he needs that, probably in home care too. I am hoping that I won't be so miserable, with all the house issues, and will be a lot of work, but, I am being told by friends, get in home care first (I am burning out), then worry about moving to a 55+ community, along with all the other things on my plate, my sister unexpectedly passed away last year, so I have all of that too & it's only ME, no other family. Which step comes first?????