My mother who is 83, lives with us. She's on 50 mg serequel at night and neuropsycholigist added 12.5 twice a day during the day for hallucinations and agitation, which isn't working . When given 50 mg at 9pm , she's still in her room awake at 10pm. I don't think she goes to sleep till 10:30 and she refuses to take her pill sooner than 9pm right now. Neurophsychologist said to up her daytime dose to 25mg twice a day, which I'm starting today, but she hallucinates all day. Talks day and night till she sleeps, to someone who obviously isn't real. Doesn't drink enough fluids during the day, is in and out of the house all day, on the deck, in her room , and in and out of the bathroom, forgets where she puts things .I feel like I have to check on her all the time . She thinks someone got killed in our back yard ,went out one night at 7pm looking for the person to help. I literally can't handle it all . Last night I went in her room to check on her at 9:45 pm and she had her crochet stuff all over her bedroom floor, trash can knocked over , standing in front of the window practically naked ,just her underwear. I asked why everything is scattered on the floor, she said she got upset about "something" . I then told her she needs to go to bed, pick it all up in the morning , but she apparently picked it up when I left the room ,cause I checked 10 minutes later. We go to bed at 9pm and my husband and I are up at 3am cause he goes to work at 5am,so it's important we get sleep. I have crohns disease, heart failure, and now fibro muscular dysplasia . The stress of all this has taken a toll on me. I called the local hospital asked how I can get help here like a home health aid or something, but got nowhere with her. Guess I can't "force" her into a home, but she said I can call for an ambulance to come ,and tell them I can't handle her, and they will take her to the hospital for "evaluation " last time she was there I got tricked into taking her back to my house after a social worker told me she would set up a home health aid or something to come to my house to give me a break. Never happened!!! I guess the only way now to get her into a home is to call 911, have her taken to the hospital then tell social worker I "can't " take care of her, she's no longer safe in my home. Does that sound about right ??? I'm losing sleep, lost 6 lbs, I'm mentally and physically drained! 🤦🏼♀️
As you say, stand strong and don't let them send her back to your home.
Call 911, have her transported and remember to stand your ground on not accepting her back home.
I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Now that you know the hospital will tell you anything to take her home, tell them she's an unsafe discharge since you've found her wandering outside and your health issues prevent you from continuing to be her caregiver. Then start working with the social worker to get her a direct transfer into a facility or into their psych ward. Don't take her back no matter what, and make sure no other family member or friend goes to get her, either (my step-FIL called a neighbor to come get him on one of his ER stints and the hospital released him to this person). I wish you success in this difficult process but there's light at the end of the tunnel!