My 81 y.o. Alz mother wants to go with me EVERYWHERE I go. But she can't. She doesn't like waiting, loud places, crowded places, cold places, boring (for her) places, long drives, strangers, etc. She would demand to go home in the middle of the trips or go back to sit in the van in 100 degree outside temperature, or complains repeatedly that I made her come along. She has ruined so many trips to the parks, grocery stores, Costco, kids' school. She drained the battery in the van by blasting the ac/fan when the engine was not running, and left us stranded. She stresses my kids out so much that they don't want her to come along with them to most places.
In order to get away from the house and leave her at home, I have to come up with a lie to tell her so she won't want to come along. The only one that works so far is: I need to go walk the dog. Since she can't walk much, she doesn't want to come along. She has no short term memory, it's no use telling her that she didn't like to come on a particular trip before, or that she asked to come along earlier and now that she's there she doesn't like it.
I would like to know what lies other caregivers tell their LO so that they can avoid a fight or a tantrum. And do you have any suggestions for me to tell my mother so she will not ask to come along when I don't want her to?