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This is such a difficult spot to be in with a loved one. My dad was always such a laid back guy but this disease turned him into someone that people were afraid to be around. Although he has calmed down quite a bit now I am always worried that I will get another phone call from the facility saying he has done something to hurt someone because you just never know from one moment to the next what will happen or what will trigger them. The doctor told me as his disease progresses the aggression will slow down as well so either way you go it’s all a bad situation for them. There are no easy answers and I find myself constantly wondering why people have to experience the things they do. Hang in there. This is tough on all involved but you are not alone.
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My dad was admitted to memory care August 1 and began displaying violent aggressive behavior. He was sent to psych ward for three weeks to regulate meds. They put him on Geodon which is an antipsychotic. He is much more docile now but it has taken time. Unfortunately with these behaviors the patient has to be slowed down so much that it is very hard to watch. The doctor gave the analogy that my dad was like a “baby driving a Ferrari” meaning his body is in great shape but his brain has no control over his strength etc. The Geodon slowed my dad physically down. It breaks my heart to see him so slow almost sloth like at times but he seems more content.
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Jwags12869 Oct 2019
Thanks for this response. My Mom is in an almost identical situation. We are trying to get her moved from a memory care facility to skilled nursing and they basically won’t take her because of her behavior. My Dad is struggling with having her admitted to the hospital for any length of time because our last hospital stay was so difficult on her. But if she is a danger to herself and staff members it seems this is the only choice to get her stabilized. I wonder- does the violent behavior ever go away completely? Is this just another phase we have to work through? Thanks for your thoughts on this.
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