My French mother-in-law moved in with us 2 and 1/2 years ago, and I am really having trouble coping with her behavior. She definitely has some form of dementia or Alzheimer's, but my husband has yet to take her to a neurologist. He calls it "old age." I am currently looking for a job and am at home quite often, so I spend a lot more time with her. There is no way that we can send her back to France or find a facility that will work for her here. She does not speak any English, is legally blind, and cannot hear anything without her hearing aid which she often neglects to wear. She insists that she hears washing machines running all night and sleeps poorly, that someone is even running a laundromat from our backyard. The hardest for me is that every time something is missing in her room, she complains non-stop that someone is stealing her personal items - it could be brushes, combs, bras, cigarettes, lighters, soap, really anything. She constantly accuses the cleaning ladies or my son or his girlfriend, . She watches the housecleaners like a hawk and will not leave her bedroom when they clean it. When her bras went missing, the rants lasted close to two months. She yells and rants, and I can can hear her all the way on the other side of the house. She misplaces things all the time (her visual impairment obviously does not help). She may recall having a full pack of cigarettes (from two or days prior) but then sees an empty pack and concludes that there is a cigarette thief. No one in my family smokes. Is this paranoia typical of someone with dementia/Alzheimer's? How do we respond? Do we agree with her that there is a thief? My husband worries that if we agree with her, then she will want us to call the police. When we do say no one stole her things, she just seems to get more worked up. It's like we are telling her that she must be crazy. I am really struggling with her living with us in our home, and having this constant air of paranoia all around us. I have my own health issues from a traumatic brain injury I suffered several years ago. It feels like my own health is declining. How also do you take care of your own sanity and well-being in this toxic environment? I feel so stuck, we can't travel or go away overnight, or plan anything for the future, I have tried to find an adult day care for MIL but after 5 minutes she wanted out. My husband is an only son, and it's hard to find caregivers who speak French. If any of you have dealt with an elderly parent who accuses others of stealing and can comment on what are the best approaches to take, I would really appreciate it!