For years I helped my dad care for my mother who had dementia, they eventually moved to a care facility. When she passed away he moved into a small house beside ours. He said he would hire help and get a Life Line button to wear but after we moved him he said it was too expensive, I hired a housekeeper, he did not get the button! He is legally blind and was using a walker but I thought he was doing fine, one day he just decided he needed to move back to the facility, said he could not see well enough to live alone, just insisted so we moved him back.
Shortly after he moved he cracked a bone in his hip and has been in a wheel chair since. A few months later the facility closed and he had to move again, he did not like the next place, moved again, to make it short we have moved him seven times, facility to facility, small room to bigger room, trying to make him happy. He has a little dog and this is the last place that will take pets! He is angry, thinks they charge too much even though his long term insurance pays for most of it. He has a nice big room with a small kitchen, a nice courtyard where he can take the dog out. There are lots of activities but he will not participate, he complains about the food, always good when I eat! He complains about the man he eats with, complains about the housekeeper! He says that they do not do anything for him and he should not be there and tells everyone that it is my fault he is there and I will not let him move back home.
I really do not know where he thinks he is going to live, the house he rented beside us is not available and we would have to build a ramp before he could even get in! He has always been pretty sharp mentally but he has been getting things mixed up lately, seems to have lost his common sense. I live 10 miles away but visit him every other day, I find myself dreading these visits, I have just been leaving when he starts complaining but lately I leave in tears! I also take him to church every Sunday but that has gotten harder, not sure how long I will be able to do this, it is the only time he actually walks, it is hard and I am afraid he is going to fall. I have tried to reason with him, I have tried to ignore him but lately I just get mad! I have had health issues myself and I know this stress is not helping. Sorry this is so long! I would appreciate any advice, thanks!