I have been following this forum for about 18 months. Some sad stories but most answers seem to be heartfelt. I am trying to differentiate between what is truly important and what is less so. Mom is in AL. Later stage dementia. Incontinent. My concentration is her safety, dignified treatment, decent food, and pain minimization. I have found that medical/health communication from the AL is lacking unless I press for it. Briefly, what should be the top items on my advocate list?