Found my son's dad about a year ago. He was in a coma from being beaten almost to death. He is a ward of the state. If my son wanted to take over as guardian what would that consist of doing?
Why would he do that? There's an awful lot of red tape and expense to it, and stress... Can he spend time with his father where he is? Bring him things? Take him out; you said he WAS in a coma, so i guess he isn't now? Just thinking it would be far easier on your son, and maybe his father, to do it this way....
How old is your son? Does he realize what the job entails? Is he ready to give up time with his girl friend or wife? Is he willing and able to drop work or other commitments to tend to his dad? Is he aware that it can get worse than it is now?
It's a lot of responsibility for a young man. He would need to find out all the ins and outs of the job before taking it on.
If you just found his dad, I would assume that he hasn't been in contact with him either. This may be a Pandora's Box.
Im glad i asked. I feel the same way and thank you for being honest. Hes never had a relationship with his dad. But feels bad because its his dad. Ive told him visit whenever you want but keep it just visiting. He is out of the coma but hes not in very good shape. He probably will be in a rehab center for the rest of his life. Hes awake but not coherent. Hes 67, a veteran and the guardianship takes every dime hes got. He has a pension, social security, he was diagnosed with ptsd from the vietnam war so he gets something for that. Not sure what that totals up to be but the rehab center is the pits. Its so sad to see all that money go to the guardianship when he never did right by his son. But my son is grown now, 22, going to school full time, and he works too. And still wants to see what he can do for his father. Ive wiped my hands clean of it all. No thanks.
Your son would have to sue in court to become his dad's guardian. He would need somewhere around 10k in legal fees up front. As guardian, he would need to post a bond ( several more K) and would need to account to the court about his dad's care and account for all his monies.
Can your son work with the guardian to get his dad into a better VA facility?
Thank you barb. Thats what i was wondering. I knew there was no way possible. I wish that the company that took over guardianship would talk to my son but we always get an answering service. And they dont return phone calls. Weve tried 3 times. Maybe someone at the rehab center can give us a better phone number. I know hes not being taken care of. Weve gone to visit on a monday. Gone back on thursday and hes still wearing the same clothes. Even i hate seeing him like this.
Can he spend time with his father where he is? Bring him things? Take him out; you said he WAS in a coma, so i guess he isn't now? Just thinking it would be far easier on your son, and maybe his father, to do it this way....
Does he realize what the job entails?
Is he ready to give up time with his girl friend or wife?
Is he willing and able to drop work or other commitments to tend to his dad?
Is he aware that it can get worse than it is now?
It's a lot of responsibility for a young man. He would need to find out all the ins and outs of the job before taking it on.
If you just found his dad, I would assume that he hasn't been in contact with him either. This may be a Pandora's Box.
Can your son work with the guardian to get his dad into a better VA facility?