My mother is 93 and in Hospice Care. She has congestive heart failure and another heart condition that prevents the heart from pumping as it should.
I live with Mom. My sister is retired and stays with her while I am at work.
My sister isn't very responsible - I get everything ready so Mom has what she needs before I leave for work. I get home and there are dishes in the sink, towels in the shower, clothes to wash.
This week my sister took Mom out without her wheelchair and her oxygen.
Mom got home and she was exhausted. I stayed up with her as she was on oxygen all night. The nurse came over and prescribed a new medication. Mom slept for the next two days as I took the rest of the week off from work.
My sister claims our mother wanted to use only her cane, that she wanted to walk everywhere and that she was fine - not even winded. Of course, at home Mom gets out of breath walking to the bathroom - and that's with her walker. She falls asleep on the toilet.
When I told sis it wasn't a good idea to take Mom out without her wheelchair and oxygen she blamed me, as they were in my car. Did she ask for these before I went to work? No. She wanted to start a fight but even if I wanted to go back and forth about it I didn't have the energy.
I've known my sister all my life and expect her to be how she is. The problem is this attitude getting in the way of Mom's care.
I am my mother's POA for health care - Mom arranged this after my brother and sister took 20k from her (another story).
Is there something I can do to make sure Mom is OK while I am at work? As her POA what does that entail? Do I hire someone? I understand it's important to have family help as much as possible, but this seems to be at the risk of Mom's well-being. My siblings already don't like me, so I'm not here to win any popularity contests.
Just want what is best for Mom. Any thoughts?