I need help in determining a rate of pay for my nephew and his wife to take care of my elderly mother. My mother is 93 years old and in sound mind. She uses a walker to get around. She is on oxygen and has recently developed other major medical problems. She may need to be put on palliative care soon. She needs assistance with:
-Toiletry and bathing.
-Shopping and meal preparation
-Laundry and maintaining a clean house.
-Medication administered and health needs monitored.
-Communicating with doctors and tracking her medical needs.
-Communicating electronically for online doctor appointments
-Transportation to medical appointments.
-Carried downstairs out of the house in a wheelchair for appointments.
-At night she may need to wake up someone to help her with bathroom needs or need for additional pain or sleeping medication. This may occur 0-5 times a night depending upon her difficulties (Average is about once a night).
-Always have someone in the house in case of emergencies or care needs.
My mother wants my nephew and his wife to care for her at her house and they want to provide that care. The proposal would be that they would be living with my mother at her house rent free with a stipend paid to my nephew and his wife for personal health care and a budget to cover her food.
My mother is currently paying my nephew and his wife ( Medical Asst Training) $100 a day each. She is also paying my niece (Physical Therapist Assistant student) $50 a day. My nephew’s wife feels that they are being paid far less than the value that they are bringing to the quality of life and care for my mother. My niece-in-law went out to local “for-profit” home care providers to find out the rate they charge for home care. The rate she came up with was $20,000. A month. This is what she is asking to be compensated to care. She is requesting to be compensated at $5000 a month now and $15,000 a month from my mother’s estate when she passes. They are also asking $1000 a month to cover food costs.
Currently my mother is paying $250 a day and has 3 people caring for her ($200 day for nephew and wife). On average this works out to $7500 month, ($6000 month for nephew and wife). My mother is not a rich woman. But thanks to my late father’s investments has enough money to live comfortably. Her monthly income including social security, retirement funds, and dividends from investments totals to $5570 a month. We have had to supplement this amount by an additional $4000 a month from the stocks to cover her currently monthly expenses including the amount she pays for personal health care.
Being the Financial POA for my mother they presented this proposal to me. My mother does not want to upset anyone and is feeling caught in the middle. My brother and I both feel that the current rate of compensation is a generous amount. My sister (mother of nephew) feels for all that they are doing that they should be paid more than $100 a day each but does not know what the new rate should be. Everyone but my nephew’s wife agrees that $20,000 a month is an extraordinary amount to be compensated.
We cannot agree or move forward without a Personal Care Agreement that would include a fair rate of pay for personal health care, food compensation, and location where the care should take place.
What I need help with is:
-What a fair and reasonable rate of compensation for my nephew and his wife to take care of my mother full time.
-A reasonable rate to be recompensed for food cost.
-If she should pay for any additional outside services such as house cleaning, lawn maintenance, snow removal etc. Or should it be covered for what is paid for health care?
-If my mother is paying for personal health care, should she have the right to say where that care should take place.
Thanks for your help.