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I care for my mother who has Alzheimer's. I can say that the issue is very, very stressfull. First, I would agree where, whom, ect... I am not saying that with any situation that abuse is OK,it is not. I live in a retirement area, so, I am surrounded with aging, and illness. I care for my mother in her home, and have for 7 years. I will tell you that we had a neighbore's son, who was not doing what he should have done, using drugs, and had no desire to have help come in to the house. I knew she was at a point where she needed hospice to get invloved. I called, talked to him and after two months he had her come.( Hospice that is).

The reason I knew about her situation is that she had asked if I could, or would
visit, upon doing so I could see that she was in need of more help, and montering. As the one person asked, where and whom is caring for the person?
I know the woman I knew always covered up her son's issues. This is not unusual, yet, unacceptable. If the person is in a unit, then call the state, or the AREA ON AGING, which you can call even if the person is at home. Often, if the person being abused will not say so, it becomes difficult to help, but, can be done with time.
As I have been typing this I have helped mom get her night cloths on, get her a snack, and answered at least 20 questions. One has to know, as well what kind of mistreatment, theft, abuse, lack of care, bed sores etc..., before you make any calls.
Good Luck, Let us Know. ( Not all can handle the care of elders).
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If you witness mistreat, it is your duty to report it and follow through to see that it is corrected. If the abuser is acting this way in front of you, just imagine what happens when no one is there.
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Wherever the mistreatment occurs it is every one's duty to report it to law enforcement.

Failing to do so makes on complicit in the crime and an accomplice.

Speak out, speak up, and speak often until the situation is resolved and the victim is safe.
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it could be the victim is scared of this abuser, I have witnessed this once, an elderly woman was in hospital awaiting to go into a care-home, she had dementia and had thrown her lunch on the floor,a nurse came over and hit this woman on the back of the hand telling her don't do this again. I went to this so called nurse and slapped her face, I asked how it felt? I reminded her of this womans illness, elderly and frail,i asked if she saw someone doing this to her mum, what she would do?i was angry and crying after seeing this. the next thing a group of them started with me telling me this was not called for, all sticking up for one another.i was (livid) but told them I would do it again if need be.although this woman had dementia, she would come to me to take her to the bathroom, she was obviously scared of this nurse.do not hesitate putting her out the door, report it immediately. if this person can mistreat anyone, she will do it again, its obviously in her nature.my mother has dementia, thankfully she has good carers as well as myself and sister,i could never watch this happen again,regardless of whether it was someone I knew or not. get this fixed out now, for this persons sake, don't hesitate, guilt will haunt you if you do nothing. let me know how you get on. this person is cruel.
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I'm assuming, since you're posting on this site, that this abuse is happening to an elderly person. Ask yourself this: If the same things that you've witnessed were happening to a child, what should I do? I think you know the answer.
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Need a few more details.
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Is this person in a nursing home? Is this person being mistreated by staff?

Is this person in their own home? Being mistreated by a caregiver? Being mistreated by family?

What kind of mistreatment is it?
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