I am currently the only caregiver to an 84 yr old gentleman, I am with him normally 3 days a week for approx 5/6 hrs on those days. I started working with him in Jan of this year right after his wife passed. (Jan 1st). Since that time I've noticed several changes. I do believe we are possibly dealing with early stages of dementia. With these changes, my days have slowly gone from three days a week to 4 to 5 to sometimes 7. He lives 47 minutes away so getting to him quickly isn't really an option not to mention I have a family with teenage children as well as a baby in the home. With no family to turn to on his side to ask for help, am finding it more and more difficult to care for him as is needed. I've exhausted all options as far as home care, assisted living,adult day care etc. These are not an option for him as he owns his own home and also makes just over the limit with is SS. As to be expected he adamantly refuses to speak of a nursing home. My question is what do I do when I'm not enough? I've been told to contact APS but ultimately if he refuses help from them their hands are ties as well. The situation has gotten to the point that he makes me feel guilty that cant stay with him. We've even has arguments about this. I feel like I'm at a point where I need to protect him but also myself. Has anyone been in this situation that could offer any advise?? It would be much appreciated !!