Been here at mom's since stepdad died, working on the 8th yr. That was the plan me & mom had if something should happen to stepdad. Shortly after I moved in, I heard mom on phone with one of her friends saying " gurn will take care of me" (that's me). I froze in my tracks and told mom right then that I DIDNT MOVE IN THERE TO TAKE CARE OF HER AND IF SHE THOUGHT I DID, SHE SHOULD GET THAT OUT OF HER HEAD NOW, AND IF THATS WHY SHE ASKED ME TO COME THERE FOR THAT REASON, I WOULD GATHER UP MY STUFF AND LEAVE.... she said that wasn't it, and kind of blew it off... Let me tell you mom has always been a P.I.T.A.... So I stayed... NOW working on the 8th year. first thing, moms cooking sucks, so I took over cooking, had to!!! next the shopping, if I wanted to spend the whole day in a grocery store, I woulda became a checker... Mom doesn't drive, never has... OMG this is the 21st century, who doesn't drive- doesn't go anywhere. So that leaves the running to me, along with yardwork, home repairs and whatever else thinking is needed. Mom's old stupid school, leaves the H@O running the whole time she's doing the dishes (or washing her hands brushing her teeth) That's not happening, so now I'm doing the dishes too.
About 3rd year, People have quit calling her to ask her out, because she keeps turning them down, she sits in front of the TV all day, no activity, no hobby, no friends... and she's starting to say WHAT? to every thing you say. she'll ask a question, and you give answer she says What? ITS THE BEGINNING, OF SOMETHING TERRIBLE, SOMETHING THAT WILL CAUSE YOU TO GO CRAZY, TO RESENT YOUR OWN MOTHER, TO HATE YOUR SELF, AND THE WORSE PART IS FEEL GUILTY, ABOUT THESE FEELINGS. to watch your semi sweet mom that at one time was a kick to be around, get broken down by dementia. I shoulda left that day she was talking to her friend. Any way sorry about that my question is, My sister is POA, since mom has become unable to make any decisions, and my sisters poa is now fully kicked in, and cant be takin away, her first order of business is to serve me a 30 day notice to move out. Were past that now, the dumb *ss realized, that one of them (sis and 5 stepkids) would have to move in so they didn't push it. They are some strange people, for the past 3 1/2 years I havent even took a vacation, (go help dad at his house) until I talked my sister into staying with mom for the 9days I'd be gone. Boy was she in a hurry to get outta here when I got back, a couple weeks after she came and let me leave for the wkend… It was nice, then it was 6+wks and I hadn't had a break, so I went off on my sister to get me some time outta here. She got my step sister to come over for 5 hrs, FIVE HRS? I took it, didn't do much but leave and try to whined down. Ive been telling my sister to get help for me since 2015, So she gets the steps involved, (I never involved them its our mom, but shell do anything not to have to take care of mom, or help me out in anyway. Except when its laundry day! other times, she'd be her to give mom shower, I'd tell her I'm leaving for a couple hours and she'd lie to me saying she had to go for some reason or another in a 1/2 hr, 3hr later shes still there. Now she's paying 2 people, one is 930 to 430pm 3days a wk, the other is 930 to 400pm, 2 days a wk... the other 134hrs of the week are mine,
The one with 3 days, brings her 2yr old son with her and is late every day... I saw her pay check $13 a hr. shes 31 yr old family on welfare. The 2 day person is a pro live in cg, whose patient died and out of some work, shes 51 and has been doing this since she was 17 yr old, So I recon my sister is paying her $20? an hr.
Should I be getting a pay check too?