I have tried for at least the last two years to get my two brothers together and talk about Durable Power of Attorney. I have even called an attorney to get info on the DPOA. I was told Mother has to be there along with us to assign who she wants as POA. I wanted to get this accomplished while she was still lucid. Now
I am pretty sure it is too late. She has really declined and if we did meet with an attorney.... at this point in time...(IF we could even get her out the door to go), he'd realize she's not in her right mind to make any decisions. I always thought of this end of life decision as something to be shared and talked over with each other. We get along and live close to each other. But, being the female, it's all left up to me. If she goes into a nursing home they would probably want to know who is responsible for her....we'd have no legal paperwork.....and it ain't gonna be me.
Like others on here, I have sleep problems, depression. It's taken over my life.