OK, my mom went to the doctor yesterday. A neighbor drove her. (I couldn't because it clashed with my work schedule and she canceled the one I'd made that didn't clash.) So she is 76, has some dementia. Showed up at the doctor's a bit confused. They were concerned and want her to get a few tests (a stress test and an EKG) and to send a social worker to visit her. I'm fine with that, as she's been super stubborn, basically expecting me to get her cigarettes or shop for her a bit, when she wants it, and it's been rough with her moods (telling me not to talk to her anymore, then forgetting it, or accusing my husband and me of stealing or other things that never happened). But what kinds of things happen with these visits? The doctor said I could be there, and I want to, but what might they do? At my mom's place they she might react better, be less confused, so they might only get one side of her. I really would like them to be able to suggest something that'll be of help. I'm working two jobs now, and my house is neglected, the yard is neglected and I'm just so tired I want to be like an ostrich sticking its head in the ground, which is good for no one, but that's what it feels like now!