I was wondering if anybody had/has a similar situation: My mother is my father's primary caregiver. However, she is in advanced stages of ovarian cancer and while for now she is ok in terms of helping him, at some point soon I see this is not going to be the case. My father suffers from mobility issues so living on his own is not an option (despite his protests that he will not go to a nursing home). He cannot drive/cannot-will not leave the house. They both are on Social Security (no savings) and on Medicare. I've done the research for Medicaid but it's a bit of a limbo situation right now. I realize I cannot predict when my mother will die, but I am very worried as to what will happen if she passes before my father does. I cannot take him in as as primary caregiver and I obviously cannot put him on a nursing home waiting list now with no definitive date, yet when the day comes that he is alone, what am I to do? Shall I call social services in the county now? I'll not even address World War III discussion that comes around every time I mention that he needs to think about what will happen when Mom dies. Any suggestions?
And a big thank you to all of you for answering all of my wandering questions. I'm still trying to figure all of this out and keep my sanity. My parents both declined within a period of 6 months.