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I realize this is an elder care site but just thought I'd throw this out there if by chance anyone has resources they can recommend. My sister and her husband ( 60's) have an adult mentally ill son living with them. He is bipolar, agoraphobic, and has constant anxiety- panic attacks (34). He can not work ,is on ACA for meds, and was turned down for disability. They all live in a small 2 bedroom apartment. ($) He has been causes problems of late and threatening my brother-in-law. My brother-in-law went to the police station to ask if they would assist him and they say nothing they can do . Will APS help my sister and brother in law or is that just for the elderly? What happens to dependent mentally ill people when their parents die. They have no money to leave him for his care. They struggle financially themselves.

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Any person that is bi-polar and becoming dangerous to the people around him needs to be put in a home as quickly as possible. Maybe my two situations would help you find some info. One, my ex-DIL was mentally ill and made some threats of killing herself and her children a few years ago. My son, who had tried every rehab within 100 miles to help her was out of options and he went by the county judge's office and asked for help. They said the next time she was "in that mood" to call the county sheriff's office as they were the ones to handle those problems. The deputies came out and had to take her to the local state hospital for the mentally ill. He signed the papers to commit her for at least 6 months. She stayed there for months to get the right meds and she started getting better finally. She stayed almost a year before they trusted her to get out but she did fine for the next few years as long as she took the meds until she fell back in with her hard-core "friends" who gave her drugs again. The drugs and alcohol didn't mix well with the medications. She died of an overdose. The other situation was when I was working as a CNA for an adult mentally ill company who provided group homes for them. Most people who are denied by Social Security/Medicare/Medicaid first will need an attorney to file the appeal. It usually works and they are approved later. They are then placed with a group home co. which places them with 4-6 other people with similar problems and either monitors for day only or 24 hr if they are violent which means 2 or 3 people who work round the clock (depending on 8 hr or 12 hr shifts) watching them and giving them their meds that are kept locked up until med time. Once you get an adult child placed with the home, make sure thru the attorney that their needs are met, either thru monies set aside by the parents or a trustee is usually set up by a judge and the Medicaid and/or Medicare is handled by them. Males are placed with males and females are placed with females members and handlers. They are allowed to get together for visits, usually at the offices before going back to their home. They are taken out for drives, eating out, and sometimes get to go to a store if they are not violent. Talk with the attorney and/or the home as to what their procedures and policies are with regard to staying there if the parents pass away. Since there is no money to leave the child if the parents die, just be sure you talk with the people in charge of the home to see what they require and then talk with medicare/Medicaid and then talk to the attorney to make sure everything is in place. In some cases, a patient will become a ward of the state and a social worker will try to keep the child placed. Good luck in finding the right home. It may take more than one company to find that because of their rules and procedures in what they allow their employees to do with regard to handling them.
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He needs an attorney. Many people are denied disability on the first go round as Curtain said. Get that going and once he is technically disabled, he'll get Medicare and Medicaid probably, if he has no income and assets. The state can appoint him a guardian or the state can become his guardian. There are adult group homes where they care for the mentally disabled.
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The need to look into a group home for him as soon as possible. He should be on Medicare/Medicaid SSI and that would help get him placed.
My sister has lived in group homes since she was 25 and does very well.
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APS stands for adult protective services, so it's not just elderly. It could be worthwhile to explore what they can do and what resources could be available for their son. My mother got on disability for health reasons and even she had to appeal even though it was incredibly obvious that she qualified. There are lawyers who don't charge more than supplies for an appeal. It sounds like he definitely needs to appeal. And especially if he's becoming threatening he may need an adjustment to his medications.
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