I am taking care of my wife with dementia at home. What happens to her if I get sick from the 36 hour days and Family can't help and I don't want to pay for expensive nh care. She will leave home and wander the streets. She will become a bag lady? Or will the state put her into a nursing home? Will I get charged with neglect or elder abuse? Can the state force me to care for her or pay for her care?