I take care of my 88 yo mom, my 90 yo dad and my wonderful angel-dog Gabby without too much effort. We all get along. Little bumps along the way, but never much trouble even when I was a teen if you can imagine that! I mentioned in another post that my mom had been exhibiting symptoms of depression (not bathing, not changing clothes, excessive sleep, spontaneous crying, etc.) We started her on an antidepressant and it made a world of difference in her emotional state. I’m so grateful for that. I’ve lived with depression myself I know how great it is when it lifts. But I guess I got impatient watching her feel better and my dad being relieved at her feeling better, while I continued doing all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, home repairs, etc. Then I had a problem of my own, one of my diabetes meds was denied by my new prescription plan (how much do I hate OptumRX!!!). Upset about this, I came downstairs to find my mom crying because she didn’t want to take a shower (after not taking one for 6 and having promised she would after I heated up the bathroom for her). Well I completely lost it. I yelled at my mom for the first time in my life (I’m 55)! So she went off crying, my dad shook his head saying “I never thought it would come to this” (seriously?) and I just felt awful. FWIW what I said was “I’m dealing with serious health crisis and you’re crying because you don’t want to take a f*#*ing shower?!" Not my finest moment! It’s OK now; she went to sleep, woke up and had no memory of it. But I’m not an angry person and I don’t know where this came from. I’d love some input.