My brother (who lives with Mom) has been in the hospital. So for a few days per week, I have a caregiver staying overnight at Mom’s to give me a break. This caregiver does end up cleaning to pass the time while Mom is sleeping, and I do appreciate it. She has also finished Mom’s laundry for me. Today, though, when I was cleaning up the laundry room, I found the caregiver’s dirty laundry that had fallen on the side of the washing machine — hers and her boyfriend’s underwear. Grossed me out.
I am not sure what I would have said if she had asked before she did her own laundry. But, the fact is, she didn’t. I guess she figured with no one here, how would anyone find out?
In addition, a few weeks ago, I noticed Mom was missing a bathroom towel. I asked the caregiver if she had seen it. She said she hadn’t. There are no places to hide/misplace a towel at Mom’s. Mom only has 2 good towels, and that was one of them. I realize towels are not that expensive, but I hate losing things. It is more the principal of the thing.
I feel like saying to her something like: “I found some of your soiled laundry when I was cleaning up he laundry room. I didn’t realize you were doing your laundry here. Can you please check your things to see if you inadvertently took Mom’s towel?”
Am I over-reacting? As time went by today, I thought I would feel differently and would have calmed down about it, but I haven’t...