He is fine but he acts helpless with whatever he doesn’t want to do such as fix himself lunch, etc. he has become mean to me and accuses me of everything from having affairs to stealing all the money out of the bank account, anything he can do to hurl hateful accusations at me. My home has become a prison because I’m not leaving him in charge of our two beloved pups. If I leave he calls constantly on my cell phone with silly questions that could wait. He left me at the surgery center when I had shoulder surgery recently. They had to call him to come get me. We have a neurologist and he knows some of this apathetic behavior. We have an appointment with a neuropsychologist but the earliest they can see him is in October. He has a daughter about 3.5 hours away is it wrong to ask that he go visit for a week?
Dementia’s have stages in the beginning where it is legal for those diagnosed to drive, make decisions etc.
What is legal isn’t always in your favor or the general public’s. There are many calamities possible including him being able to reassign his POA and rewrite his will.
https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/safety/driving-safety-and-alzheimers-
i’m sorry this has happened to your family. Learn as much as possible to protect all of you.
He is a danger to himself and others. You might lose the estate if he kills someone driving.
WHY in the world would you let someone with a DYING BRAIN drive you around? Or drive at all?
You need to get with the program and figure out why you are walking around in La La land acting like everything is normal. You are part of the problem here.
What is wrong with this picture? Do you not believe his brain is dying??????
Have you even read one thing about Alzheimer’s?
It's real convenient for those who are house bound either temp or permanent.
Groceries can be home delivered, so not much of a reason to drive much anymore, though he would be home more.
And God forbid that he would kill or severely injure some innocent person, you both could lose everything you have in a lawsuit if it was to come out that you knew he had dementia and still let him drive.
Your husbands brain is now permanently broken and you need to quit being in denial bout that as that is dangerous for you both.
The fact that he "left" you at the surgery center, was because he forgot as that's what happens when someone has a broken brain.
You need to have his doctor notify the DMV about your husband, or you can call them yourself.
This is a very serious matter, and though you say in your first sentence that "he is fine" I am here to tell you that he is FAR from being fine. Dementia only gets worse NEVER better, so best be getting your legal ducks in a row, and start educating yourself better about this horrific disease so you are better prepared for what is to come.
And to answer your last question, if his daughter would be open to having him coming for a week, by all means suggest it. But if he's been a narcissist all his life then his daughter may not be so open to that suggestion.
I wish you well as you travel this very difficult road with your husband.