So I have an amazing, 95-year old-grandfather who lives on his own, still drives, still grocery shops and tries to do everything on his own. Also, his brain is still fairly sharp. The issue is none of the family is able to convince him that he would be better off at an assisted living community or at least he needs someone to come a minimum of 3 times a week to help him with groceries, laundry and light housekeeping. He gets around on a scooter and is on oxygen most of the time. His living conditions are not the best, lots of trash, spoiled food, goes out in dirty clothing and we do not believe he bathes regularly. He recently fell multiple times in a week at his home and finally had to call family for help. Turns out this was not his first time to call 911, but he didn't let any of us know. What would be ideal is for him to loose his driver's license, but there are no accidents reported (though he obviously hits things by looking at his vehicle) and he continues to pass the vision test. We all have tried in so many ways to convince him to let us bring someone in to help. My next step is surprising him with a meeting with a visiting angle consultant because when i told him I was going to do it he got very mad. Issue is no one lives close enough to visit every day usually just once week. He is the most stubborn man I have ever met and so proud to do everything on his own. My question is at what point do we need to call someone to force him? Is there an organization to force him? Does he have to have a bad fall and go to the hospital? Has anyone just ever hired someone without them knowing and have them show up? I respect that he wants to die at home and we have the resources to allow that to happen but unfortunately i don't see that happening for a few more years and he gets worse every day. Any ideas of what others have done would be great. Thank you in advance for reading.