Ok Friends, I REALLY need some advice! My mom is in an Assisted Living now and wants to come home. She has been in there for four months and loved it. She’s active and participated in everything! Her friends have told me recently that she has been miserable lately and has been crying, asking for her mom and dad. She’s calling relatives asking if her parents are alive and telling them she hasn’t seen me in several days and wants to come home. I go EVERYDAY except 1 Day I take for myself. I started working full time ( which I haven’t done in 20 years) so I can do something besides go there all the time during the day. I go everyday after work to visit. I do her laundry and try and fix her room up when I go because she loses things constantly. Hides things all the time and her drawers are a complete mess with everything that she hides in them. I know she is in a good place, gets 24 hour care but my heart is breaking that she wants to come home. She tells me “it’s a cave”. Her sister calls me constantly asking me if my mom could come there for a couple weeks because she can’t stand how she’s hurting. She visited her one time since she’s been in there and let’s me know. She lives two hours away! She’s 86 and my moms 85! Drives me crazy.
This is so painful seeing my mom so sad sometimes , then happy, so confused and disorganized, it’s killing me😞