We have had a problem with my dad since he came to live with my sister, after his wife died 5 years ago. He was still pretty 'normal' then and put up quite a fight when he wanted to go everywhere with either her or me. Two years ago he was diagnosed with dementia and he had started to soil himself and or do 'strange' things, like using butter or peanut butter for cream etc. We searched a while to find a really good facility for him, and now that we found one and he knows that its where he is supposed to go on 1 October, he has started to behave so 'normal' and quiet, that he is hardly visible and no accidents either, making it now even more difficult for us to take him there. Any advice would be welcome.