My 93 yo mom has decided she can’t walk again. She had a minor fall on Thanksgiving day. I helped her up. She said she wasn’t hurt and everything was normal for a couple of days.
Then I had a relative assist her with a shower while I ran to the store. When I got back in an hour, they had my mom in bed at 8:00 and feeding her soup.
She stayed in bed until the next evening and since then hasn’t been able to walk by herself.
She had missed a meal and got nauseous. Then for days she wouldn’t eat enough to settle her stomach and had bouts of vomiting. She’s eating well again now, but that weakened her even more.
After that long in bed I’m sure she was stiff and now that she hasn’t been moving around she really is weak.
A couple of random days, she’s gotten to the toilet by herself, just to wake up the next day totally disabled. Now she’s having me push her while seated on her rollater to the living room and back. Going to the toilet just twice a day.
This time I’m trying to be patient with her completely instead of trying to convince her to get up and try to move around. When she’s attempting to standI stay near her but all it takes is my hand on her back and she’s doing all the work. I’m not even supporting her, just reassuring her but she thinks she can’t do it. Then she apologizes for being too heavy. She breaks my heart.
I know she needs to be getting up or at least exercising but she won’t do it and it makes it worse if I lose my temper. She won’t let me try to lift her because she’s afraid she’ll hurt me, and she’s afraid of falling,
She has doctor appt. next week and I fear what he and my sister may conclude. Hopefully we’ll get in-home therapy again. I did take a urine sample down to rule out a uti.
This is not the first time but I fear it could lead to her decline. I don’t know what to do if I can’t make her try.