I'm working part-time and when at home (where I reside with mom age 97 with dementia and an active 102 year old dad who is deaf) I am busy tending to household needs like laundry, cooking, cleaning, bill paying, appt making, shopping (for their needs).
I have crossed into the age band where I am now a "younger senior".
I work at a agency that helps older adults..so yeah, it often feels like I am living it 24/7.
One of my co-workers, a very sweet person whom I like is dealing with a health related family situation that happened suddenly/unexpectedly. The family member is currently out of the hospital and in rehab. The coworker is about 30 give or take. Has a father. Made comments to more than one of us about how dad wasn't eating well with the back and forth to the hospital. (Mom might have been the one to make dinner?)
Next thing I know...and I wouldn't have wanted to not be aware, I don't think......is that another co-worker set something up with a meals program they use at her own church to help people who are going through a rough time due to illness, death etc. It has specifics as to what they would want to eat, how to provide it (with containers to portion off so it can go in freezer for reheating) etc.
It's a list of days/dates and you can sign up as to what you will bring.
Clearly the person doing it is good-hearted. And then our leader chimed in with a follow up encouraging staff support which, because of her role/position made it seem more expected.
But my private reaction has been less than compassionate...it has been a bit angry. I again feel that the role of caregivers is not understood and taken for granted. (This has been demonstrated at the workplace as far as program planning). No one has ever offered me any help or assistance, and I feel this family can fend for themselves or learn to. Doesn't that sound heartless? And I really like this young co-worker. But my plate is full. I am exhausted by the end of the day when I come home and rush to make dinner for my folks. This just adds to my to-do list.
I am probably overthinking it all and just need to pass on the supportive aspect. I can't do it all. It doesn't mean I don't care. The woman who initiated it, imo, should have done what she wished to on her own. The director should have never sent the email she did but probably didn't realize how it would be taken at least by some of us. I think it would have been better to phrase it all in such a way as to let people know if they COULD, the person would appreciate it.