Mom has been living with me since 11-10-18. In March, my sisters, their husbands and I moved Mom's bedroom furniture to the guest room in my house, where she had been sleeping. She was furious. "My things need to be in my house." She did get past that but several times a month she wants me, or a sister, or a neighbor, etc. to take her back to her home to "get her things".
At this point, her home, which my husband and I bought from her about 10 years ago, so that she would have money to live on, has been divested of all her things (many of which are upstairs in my house...in case she wants them). And her house has been sold.
I do know that even though Mom still knows my name and can still do some things, that her ability to be logical and to reason are gone.
But when she asks me if I'll take her back to get her things and I say let me know what you want. I will get them for you.
"No. I want to go to my house and get my things," she'll say. Then I say she can't. Then she asks why. Then I say all experts say she can't go back. Then she'll ask why. Then I'll say because you have an illness called Alzheimers. Then she'll ask what's that.
Well, you get the picture.
I try to change the subject at the beginning. Obviously I'm unsuccessful at that. I say Mom I always say no and I'm always going to say no. Then she'll say but I want to know why.
I will not let her know that her beloved home is no longer available for her to go to. The argument would be the same, just a sadder, madder conversation on her part.
Any tips on some words I can memorize to say to her when she asks again to be taken by her house to get her things?
Most of the time we get along great.....but this....!!!!