Mom is 83 and basically unable to care for her self. I have caregivers 3 hours everyday (as much as my parents and I can afford). Mom gets visiting nursing, PT weekly. My Dad is 82, and becoming increasingly frail. He also continues to drink and smoke, and refuses to tell me about any medical conditions he might have. So...when he becomes very ill, or dies...what should I being doing now to take care of Mom? I’m the only child available locally, and the other sib is not very interested in the subject. I have 2 young adult kids, but they really could just be “babysitters” for Mom.
Is is the answer to prearrange respite care at a facility, knowing that she would be relocating which is stressful enough on top of potentially going through the trial of losing her husband and a funeral? I’m trying to prepare, but I’m so worried!