Both my parents are in the same nursing home here in the city I live in, and the funeral arrangements have been made in a city in another state. The pre plan and pre paid funeral includes a full funeral back where they used to live, which includes cremation and burial. The problem is they are unable to travel at all. They can't even come to my house for a visit let alone travel cross country for the spouses funeral. My question is do you think it would be bad to wait for everyone to die before sending their ashes to the cemetery to be buried. Every time you open the ground to bury ashes it cost $$$$. I also have my dad's brother's ashes here with me waiting to be buried at the same grave and at the same time as my dad. How do I start a conversation with them pertaining to the change of plans. There is not enough money to do all this from long distance. Help!!!