Mom agreed to assisted living. Everything was paid for and set up. Furniture moved. Even Pictures hung on the wall. An hour before she was to go there, the nurse of the facility told her she would meet with her in the morning to discuss her medication management. At that moment mom called it off. She refuses to go now because her medications will be managed. I'm quite aware my mom has an addiction problem ...Thats why we chose to go to assisted living. Now I'm out over $6000. I live overseas. Friends did the moving. I can't ask them to move it back. I don't want to ...because the same stuff of repeated hospital visits for "anxiety," falls, and depression are going to continue. I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do. Is it time to step back and let her go it alone?
She blames us all for pushing her, even though she was excited for the last weeks until it came up about the meds. She is now living in her condo which has no bed, an uncomfortable pull out sofa and no clothes (all at the facility) not even a coffee pot. But she said she prefers this to having her meds managed.
I'm at a loss... Any thoughts welcome.
Only child...no other family
This is EXTREMELY common among the elderly. Of course her mom doesn't want oversight. That would mean withdrawal from her addiction. That would mean the end of her highs.
If OP is power of Atty she most definitely does have a say in her mom going to assisted living. If all else fails mom will need to battle this one on her own unless she completely loses her mind. Otherwise op will lose her own mind which is so unfair to have to carry the burden because of someone's willful non cooperation.