I am 67 and my husband is 6 years older. we have no kids. My husband has heart failure related to being a combat Vet in Viet Nam. We left our home and my job about 9 years ago to help care for my mom and dad in another state. They were living in their own home. They moved there in 1997 to be closer to my sister/her husband and my parents' two grandson. My parents both began to experience major health issues over 10 years ago. My brother-in-law is very self-centered and was constantly complaining that I wasn't helping out enough, so my husband and I moved to the state where they all lived. I was very close to both of my parents. My father died about 6 years ago and my mom remained at her home with my sister and I helping her out with shopping, chores, etc. My two grown nephews did very little for her before or after my dad died. In the spring of this year, my youngest nephew murdered my sister by stabbing her to death in the backyard of the home in which she, her husband and he lived. My mother, who now had mild dementia and was 94, was so traumatized she said she could no longer go back home. We gladly brought her to live with us. My mom had a small amount of money in stocks of which my sister and I were named beneficiaries. My sister listed her two sons as her beneficiaries. But, my sister preceded my mom in death. My b-in-law started nosing into my mom's money and trying to tell me what to do with it, when etc. My mom wanted me to be the sole beneficiary as she is old fashioned and I never asked nor suggested she do this. My brother in law and oldest nephew have caused so many problems for us...nasty people. Called Adult Protective Services on us( but we were caring for my mom very well), stalked me and took pictures of me when I was at a casino with my own money on a Sat. a.m., accused me of lying, etc. etc. etc. None of this was true. Additionally, they all bullied together insisting they wanted to see my mom and we were told by her doctor and nurses to keep her away from outsiders due to Covid. My brother in law threated to call my employer if I didn't get those kids my mom's money(mom isn't even deceased ) and then wrote me a 3 page letter calling me a bitch and just attacking every area of my life. It was abusive. He was also abusive to my sister but she kept going back. Brother in law has turned my sister's family against me. So, why should I have to give my youngest nephew any of my mom's money when she dies since he murdered my sister and my mother was not the one who made him a secondary beneficiary, before she was murdered. I am so sick of this family and I do not have any contact with them because they are such abusive people. My mom does not have much money and we are saving it in case she needs to go to assisted living. They don't see to give a .... about my mom. Only call once in a blue moon and she ever said that if she didn't see them she "wouldn't die" because she hardly ever saw them before my sister was killed. What do I do about this money stuff? I want to be fair but I have been threatened, bullied, by b-in-law and his flying monkeys and it seems all they care about is my mom's money. She has very little and they think she has a lot, I think because she had more years ago but sister and b-in-law lived above their means and were always "borrowing" money from my mom who is almost poverty level, sometimes paying it back and sometimes not. We never did that. This is such a mess. Comments?