My 88 year old Dad lives with my husband and me. He is constantly sick. Heart problems, he has fallen and broken his hip twice, has stomach issues and has about 8 doctors now. Two weeks ago he called an ambulance because he had severe stomach pains which turned out to be constipation. He has a walker with a seat and walks around moaning. He keeps a garbage pail on the seat in case he vomits (but he never has) Every night he makes an announcement that ":tonight is his last night on earth" and then "we have to call an ambulance" When an ambulance does come he starts telling the paramedics about his being retired NYFD I have tried to take him to CARES to be with people his own age but he won't go. I want to put him in a nursing home but he won't go despite the fact that it s a really nice place only a mile away and we'd go to see him every day. Whenever he is in the hospital we always see him every day and bring him food from home. I still work full time and so does my husband although he works from home.Dad can't even take a shower by himself any more.
I do not have a good history with him. my mother passed at age 57 from cancer and he refused to take care of her leaving her 80 year old mother to care for her dying daughter. When his own mother was ill he put her in a nursing home. After my mother was dead a month he started dating my friend.
What can I do? I am having chest pains now and cannot afford to lose my job. I have no brothers or sister and I have no children to help me