My mom can no longer do anything she used to do. She is physically unable to care for herself. She needs assistance getting up from the wheel chair to use the walker to get to the bathroom. She can't sit herself up in bed. She can only feed herself. And some of that even goes on the floor. She can't cook for herself. She is unable to focus on TV programs, she doesn't read anymore. She doesn't do any artwork anymore. She doesn't carry on any conversations. Her conversations are mostly about going home.
Home is her parents (my mom is 96 yrs old). She is very confused most all of the time.
We took her into our home because the rest of my family didn't want to deal with her. She always said, "please don't put me in a NH." So she is living 150 miles from where she came from and is living in our home.
In spite of the excellent care we've provided for her, I've watched her decline in steps every few months. Now the steps periods are getting shorter.
She is unhappy living with us. Lots of times she thinks she is in a NH now.
How do you rate the quality of life vs. the care, time, money, and life it is taking from us to care for her?