My dad is in his mid 60's. He is a complete control freak. He emotionally abuses my mother and me. I am 29 years old and currently living with my parents. I have always been very close to my father and only recently have realised just how much abuse my mum has taken over the years. He was always controlling and had mood swings, but it's just got worse and worse. My mum has also told me that it wasn't this bad before. I lived away from home for years, and after moving back I've just started to hate the man I once adored. He won't let me have an opinion that is different from his, he calls me disrespectful if i answer him back in any way. If i get on his nerves he will start insulting me and swearing at me. he often threatens me with physical abuse, and has hit me for telling him i'm a grown woman and he also needs to respect me. After he hit me i shouted at him that he had no right to hit me and asked who the hell he thught he was, he then completely lost it and started threatening me, even to go as far as to grab a knife. He still wants to have control over the jobs i work at, where I go, what time I get back etc. My mother is the only reason I haven't moved out again as she has lost all of her confidence and is very lonely. And for some reason won't divorce him, even though he often threatens her with divorce. I was always a real daddy's girl and this man that he has now become shocks me. on his good days he's still the best dad in the world. but then his moods start. he is mean and very aggressive when he's in one of his moods, or when someone doesn't agree with him or when someone "disrespects" him. The worst thing is that everyone around us - friends, neighbors and relatives think he's the nicest guy in the world. He's got this mask that he wears, the happy friendly liberal mask. but at home he's a sexist nasty bitter man, everyone believes that he's perfect. It breaks my heart to see the man that i adored for over 20 years like this. what could of caused him to be like this? how can he be a loving dad one minute and a nasty egoistic man the next? I know he's unhappy and probably depressed. nothing is ever his fault and he blames everyone for everything.