My mother refuses ANY help in helping her remove soiled pads and clothing. We pull down, she pulls up. She REFUSES to take a shower as well...for shower time, we have tried soothing tactics, bribery, even offered to get into shower with her (me clothed) and now thinking about a small kiddy pool just to get her in the water that way.. she is very modest and needs to cover up, which we always try to accommodate by holding a towel so she can unrobe herself..but she refuses to get into shower. We have attempted bird baths as well, she fights us to the end! The whole staff at board and care home are at their wits-end in trying to figure out what tactics might work and throughout the day attempt numerous times. to get her to bath. We are now concerned about UTI’s & hygiene. We are on a goal of at least 1 shower per week. This is a new environment for her as she was (2 months) ago placed. Otherwise, she seems well adjusted to her new home. Prior to her move, she had NEVER been incontinent, or had soiled underwear. We had been, though, struggling with bath time even then. I knew eventually incontinence would be inevitable, but not to that extreme from one day to next. Staff has put-up a bathroom sign with arrows so she can find it easier. They also frequently remind her to go the bathroom. The Alzheimer’s store has a house-coat with a zipper in the private area, making it easier for caregivers to access, without having to take bottom clothing off. I might try that. Any suggestions, would be appreciated. Thank you.