About ten years ago, my uncle met this woman at his then-current job and they became friends. He lost his job there due to layoffs, and for the following six to eight months he received phone calls from her on a daily basis, sometimes several times a day. Eventually he got another job.
Somewhere along the line, this woman started complaining to him about various problems she was having at his former workplace (where she still worked) and about problems she was having outside of work. This turned into him giving her money to fix her many problems.
They ate out once in a while, but she prevented it from going any further from the start by telling my uncle such stories like how her ex-husband shot her in the leg and kept tabs on her and threatened to harm or kill anyone who got involved with her. She claimed that the government was taking child support out of her paychecks to pay for her son whom she had with her ex-husband, even though the son lived with her and was over 18. Her reasoning was that her ex-husband bribed judges to get this arrangement set up. Early in the relationship she discontinued the dinner engagements because she told him that people at his former job and her ex-husband's spies were always watching them, and he believed it.
Eventually she was unable to pay her mortgage for her house because so much of her paycheck was going to the supposed child support and she had to move into an apartment. Over time he started paying her more and more money to fix different problems she claimed to have, and at some point he started paying her $275 per week to pay for her rent. My uncle has no high school education and only works blue collar jobs, so that's a lot of money.
This continued for several years, and my parents and I knew little about what was going on here. My father and uncle were joint owners of the house my uncle lived in, and my uncle agreed years ago to pay the taxes and upkeep since he was the one using the house, though he neglected it for the woman. One day at local tax season, my father received a big bill from the town concerning delinquent taxes on the house, and he confronted my uncle about it. It came out then that, not only had he had been paying her $275 per week (she claimed to have lost her job because she was communicating with my uncle), he had taken out several loans and maxed out store credit cards to buy things for this woman (groceries, Christmas gifts for her family, etc.), and even bought her a car. My father made arrangements with the town to pay off the delinquent taxes--my uncle would pay my father $100 per week and then my father would bring the $100 to town hall each week to make sure it got paid, or else the town would seize the property.
This didn't solve any problems, however. He still continued to pay her $275 each week for her rent (I think she permitted him to cut back here) and did his best to pay the loans and debts he incurred for her, but with his wages it was difficult to do and he couldn't get extra hours at his job or a second job. He fell further and further behind on his financial obligations, and her requirements for more money in addition to what she took weekly kept growing and growing. He sunk into a depression and it affected his work performance.
He lost his job in 2013 due to poor performance and had his car repossessed, and he couldn't get a job after that. Even still, she was trying to get more and more money out of him, and finally he could no longer pay even a portion of her rent. He decided to retire a year early to collect Social Security, and he pays her out of what he gets from that. She uses guilt on him and told him that she receives threats about being thrown out of her apartment and that she only eats a little flour mixed with water for her meals.
We had my uncle living with us for free for several months, but he was going through our things. We don't trust him enough to know that he won't take anything, though he was eating and drinking us out of house and home. We arranged for him to have his own apartment at a really good price that he could easily afford on his Social Security (assuming he stopped paying the woman), but he refused to hear about it because it was "too big." He refused an offer to fix up the separate garage so he could at least be warm in the winter. My uncle got fed up with our attempts to find a home and now sleeps in a car.
My uncle refuses to go to the senior center and alienated himself from the volunteer fire department. He spends his days walking for miles to collect bottles and cans and tells friends and strangers that we caused his problems. The woman still gets most of his money and gets him to call her privately so no one can know what they talk about. Lately he cuts himself off mid-sentence and simply says "you know?" as if we know what he's saying, so we suspect that his mind is fading. He eats bread and occasionally fast food. He gets angry if anyone tells him to stop paying her.