My mother (49) is the primary caregiver of my grandmother (74). Mom works full-time as a school teacher as well as has a husband and a house to care for on top of caring for grandma. Grandma lives in her own home in the same city as Mom. Grandma has had several strokes in the past year that have diminished her mobility and cognition. Grandma can walk with a walker, but must be supervised as she may fall. Grandma has no use of her left hand. Grandma cannot bathe, clothe, make meals, or remember to take medicine on her own. Mom has a caretaker that comes when mom is at work. Mom is burning out as it is all too much with little support outside of what I and my younger brother are able to give outside of our own responsibilities. When I bring up hiring another caretaker for Grandma, Mom refuses. Mom says that it's too much to make sure caretaker shows up, is paid on time, and she rather do it herself. It's obvious Mom is burning out. In refusing additional help, I'm not sure what else I can say or do. So I turn to you, my fellow caregivers. Is there anything more?
Thank you to everyone on this forum! When Grandma had several strokes in November 2019, and Grandpa passed away due to COVID in April 2020, reading everyone's worries, frustrations, and collaborating on ideas has made me feel not alone in all of this. I've learned so much from all of you, THANK YOU!