My 96-year old mom has been battling CHF for a couple of years. She's been hospitalized 4 times. She lives with me and my husband and each time she starts going downhill she battles being weak, tired, coughing, sleeping, nausea, poor appetite, and I end up calling 911; then she's on to the ER, ICU, rehab, and she comes home all better with an adjustment in her medications. Her cardiologist said her heart valve is closing, but she could go on a couple more years like this. I don't want it to sound like it's all about me because it's not. It certainly can't be easy for her because she's mentally all there and has a strong will to live. In the meantime, it's so difficult for me to go through these emotional gymnastics and turmoil each time it happens. I have a busy job and It's difficult working, running a household, having a relationship with my husband so he doesn't feel neglected, and running to the hospital or rehab during this 3-4 week process. I never know if I should be planning a funeral or Christmas dinner. Can someone enlighten me as to the course of this disease, and how you cope with the ups and downs?