Three years ago, I mentioned to my Internist that I was concerned about my husband’s memory. The doctor (also my husband’s) said that when my husband recognizes the problem, we can come in together to see him.
For the following two years, I took care of my mom until she passed away last June. (Sad day.) My husband’s short-term memory issues continue to flared up every now and then. I somehow figured after Mom passed, I would be taking care of him.
Fast forward. I saw my doctor a few months ago. I told him, again, what my husband was doing and he said that it does not sound like normal age-related issues, and that he needs to make an appointment.
Some of the things my husband is doing are: Putting things away in the kitchen in places they have not been in 15 years. Then he (and I!) cannot find whatever it is. He loses things often. He gets really mad (I mean REALLY mad) when that happens. He asks the same questions in a short amount of time. I am starting to just answer the questions the same way, trying not to get frustrated. Today, he asked me 4 times if I had gotten the mail. That was after he realized after the first time, that I had already gotten it. He still asked me three more times.
My husband has finally noticed a problem — mainly with losing things or not being able to do simple things — like using a computer program that he has used for years.
I have told him about making an appointment with the doctor. His yearly appointment was to be April 13, but was cancelled because of COVID 19. Appointments are now being made in July.
Sometimes, he is fine with the memory problem — which perplexes me. How can someone can be fine one day, and have issues the next? But, I have recently realized that he has not been brushing his teeth. He also doesn’t take a shower too often, except when he is going somewhere. Now that we are to stay in our homes, except for grocery shopping, his showers are few and far between....
I don’t know how much I should say to my husband about certain things — like showering or brushing his teeth. He has always been a real “macho man” and doesn’t like to be told what he has to do. I also don’t know what to expect in the future. It really worries me. I am 63, and my husband is almost 72.
Does this sound like Alzheimer’s, or another form of dementia? What can I expect? How long can this go on? I know those questions may not be answerable, since everyone is different, but I would like to know if anyone has experienced similar things. I feel like I am the one going crazy.