My brother & boyfriend live with my 83 year old father. He's been mean and nasty to me & my husband. Harassing me on Facebook, Slamming the door on my face. I have to go over to my father's home to take care of his medications and take him to the doctor's etc. I'm his POA. This man has became impossible to deal with and my brother fights with him all the time but still stays with him. What can I do? Open to suggestions and has anyone else have to deal with this kind of issue? Thank you.
If BF does not want to participate maybe its time for him to move out.
I'm wondering is the boyfriend is a freeloader?
Unfortunately, the boyfriend's lack of decency & petty rubbish on Fbook is not within your control, unless it is abuse that it is against the law.
Can you discuss his behaviour directly with him? Or failing that, with your Brother (privately)?
Maybe boyfriend feels like he does all the work & you waltz in just for the occasional appointment? Who knows unless he TALKS, not just act out. Can he be an ADULT & tell you or your Brother what's eating him? That would be a start.
When it comes down to it though, its up to your brother to kick him out. I would not go over without my husband.
You also posted this:
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/my-brothers-partner-is-starting-to-harass-me-should-i-involve-my-83-yr-old-father-in-the-situation-461634.htm
YOU shouldn't be accepting abuse while caregiving.
Talk to brother, if he doesn't put you ahead of his BF, then that is telling. This is wrong, on a lot of levels. You shouldn't have to deal with the BF AT ALL. You're not related, I don't even consider myself related to my MIL and I am married to her son.
If you are POA, you can call Elder Abuse--YOU! (I am assuming you are in your 50's to 60's) Does your dad have his wits about him enough to help out with sticking up for yourself?
As far as FB harassing, that's just juvenile.
Can you have dad give POA to brother? Wash your hands of it? Sounds like you do care for dad, you're just upset with brother. But this BF is making it unpleasant to do your CG.
There probably isn't even a REASON the BF is a jerk. Some people are just mean.
I'm so sorry for your situation.