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Without getting into too much of a background of my sister, suffice it to say, she is taking advange of our (5 of us) mother and isolating us from her. My red flags;


1. Acts like she is our mother's legal guardian (my mom is her own person) and routinely tells her and makes her do my sisters bidding. My mom lives in her own house but is cared for primarily by my two sisters who take turns living with her. My POA sister lives in Tyler Texas, and will take my mom against her will down to Tyler as a matter of convenience to my sister by being with her own family despite my mom wanting to stay in her own home.


2. My POA sister absolutely hates our brother who was once the live in cargiver for my mother. She extorted my mother's signature on her own pre written letter stating my brother could never set foot in the house again. My POA sister threatened to basically abandon my mother and insinuate she would be put in a nursing home unless she signed it. My mother has since confided that she feels horrible about not having her son allowed in the house and states, "I wish I had never signed that".


3. The POA sister once stated, when my dad died, that mom had more money than she would ever be able to spend in her lifetime. Now, my sister states that "there may not be anything left by the time mom goes". Mind you, it is not about the money, but the corruption regarding my mothers mother's estate.


It is to be noted that my POA sister refuses to let anyone know any information regarding the finanical health of my mother's estate and has, I learned through a background check on her, that she has been employeed with an elder care company(my mom is the only person elderly she deals with) . I believe she is getting billed medicare money off our mother utilizing her married name to hide impropriety. .


My sister has my mom so scared of being abandoned and has been brainwashed into thinking that she is the only one capable of having authority, my mom gives her free reign under threat of abandonment. I have been licensed in the health field for over 20 years with 17 in the geriatric population. My sister not only will not listen to advice on medications or symptoms detrimental to mom, but only put herself on the hospital list when my mom was in the ICU with flu, congestive heart failure etc. My sister doesn't turn on my moms answering machine at her home, and doesnt let her have her phone and screens her calls.


I believe my sister is guilty of emotional/mental abuse for forcing my mom to ban her son from visiting. I believe she is funneling money from my all of my moms investments without her knowledge and I believe she is not acting in the best interest of my moms health. what do I do? All my other siblings are silent and under her thumb. I don't care about anything other than stripping my sister of her abusive power and protecting my mother.

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Are you and mom in Texas?
If so, here is a guide.
If not google for your state and guardianship of parent.

Your mom sounds afraid of your sister.
But just know your sister may have done her homework so probably would be hard to take down if she has covered her tracks.
Look this over and then find a certified elder attorney for a consultation.

https://hhs.texas.gov/sites/default/files/documents/laws-regulations/legal-information/guardianship/pub395-guardianship.pdf
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If she can't remember what she just ate, then she may not be competent. That question needs to be raised to a doctor like a gerontologist who specializes in older people.

I'd go to a lawyer about filing for guardianship. It will take the testimony of two doctors saying that they have found her incompetent.
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Caringson67 Jan 1, 2019
Great! How do I get passed my sister. She literally (not a typo) stays glued to our mothers side day and night and only leaves to eat. This was also the case at home, hospital and current rehab center. I believe she is doing it ti keep me or amyone else from speaking to her regarding issues.
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Is mom competent? She can change her POA anytime she wants.

Then call Adult Protective Services again. The isolation in itself is abusive.

If mom will not stand up and tell APS what is going on, your interpretation, they will do nothing.
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Caringson67 Dec 31, 2018
Legally, she is competent as a court has not deemed her otherwise, but she is advanced in her parkinsons dementia enough to not be able to respond verbally to questions many times and unable to answer without deferring to my sister...even simple questions regarding what she just ate.
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Sounds like a case for adult protective services to investigate. You will need to have evidence, not suspicions, to prosecute.
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Is your mother legally incompetent? If not, she can fix this herself by assigning POA to one of the sisters that give her care.

How did your sister's POA get activated? It sounds like your mom is still capable of making decisions.

There is no stopping people from making bad decisions, though. You can apply to the court for guardianship. At the very least, that might get you and your siblings some accounting of what is going on with your mother's money.
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Caringson67 Dec 31, 2018
My sisters POA was a result of my mothers aunt dying and my mother being incapable to fulfill her own duties of POA /executor of the will. My mother gave it to my sister who has bullied her way her whole life. This was done out of state. She kicked out a family member there to who had been my aunts caregiver everyday for over 30 years.
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