We tried and tried to get my mother to go back to church, the library, attend local activities for seniors (“Ugh, I don’t want to be around old people!”) and visit friends. She constantly declined. Later claiming we held her hostage.
I am afraid we would need a lot more information to know what might be happening here.
Does your mother live with your aunt or does your aunt live with your mother? You say your mother has dementia; is her sister, your aunt, caring for her as her POA and/ot caregiver? If so, for how long has she done this? How long has it been since you saw your sister? Do you suspect your aunt of some sort of abuse of your mother?
What problems exist now for some time between yourself and this aunt who seems to want to keep you away from her sister, your mom? Are there any problems you bring to your visits with your Mom? That is to say are you seeking to remove her from her sister's or her own home? Are you requesting money or otherwise bothering your mother?
What I am seeking here is a REASON for your aunt's unsual behavior. Were I speaking to her at this one moment why would she tell me you cannot come in to see your own mom? There has to be some history here that we aren't aware of, so it would be truly difficult to say here whether you simple have a mom with dementia in the care of an evil sister, or whether there is some water under the bridge we should know about.
Hoping you will fill us in with a little more information on the history of how this all happened.
You can call local law enforcement for what’s called a wellness check for your mother. Or you can call Adult Protective Services and report her as a person with dementia being kept from family and possibly abused. Know that the second can start a chain of events you may not intend, but is designed to look after her safety. Don’t depend on your mother’s word as a dementia diagnosis makes her no longer able to make decisions in her best interests as the dementia progresses.
We tried and tried to get my mother to go back to church, the library, attend local activities for seniors (“Ugh, I don’t want to be around old people!”) and visit friends. She constantly declined. Later claiming we held her hostage.
Does your mother live with your aunt or does your aunt live with your mother?
You say your mother has dementia; is her sister, your aunt, caring for her as her POA and/ot caregiver? If so, for how long has she done this?
How long has it been since you saw your sister?
Do you suspect your aunt of some sort of abuse of your mother?
What problems exist now for some time between yourself and this aunt who seems to want to keep you away from her sister, your mom?
Are there any problems you bring to your visits with your Mom? That is to say are you seeking to remove her from her sister's or her own home? Are you requesting money or otherwise bothering your mother?
What I am seeking here is a REASON for your aunt's unsual behavior. Were I speaking to her at this one moment why would she tell me you cannot come in to see your own mom?
There has to be some history here that we aren't aware of, so it would be truly difficult to say here whether you simple have a mom with dementia in the care of an evil sister, or whether there is some water under the bridge we should know about.
Hoping you will fill us in with a little more information on the history of how this all happened.
Is your mom or aunt allowing visitors from anyone?
Have the police do a well check on your mom and see what they report back to you.