What can I do about my grandfather!?

Just need to say, making anyone a ward of the state is the very last thing the County would do. They would first find a family member willing to take on the care responsibility. They should also find resources to help the person stay in place. The last thing a State wants is the responsibility of caring for someone and using tax money to do it. Thats why a SW makes it so hard to say "no, I cannot care for this person"

MissBiance, your profile says your grandfather is only 67...this is very young for others to take advantage of him. Usually this situation sounds more like a very elderly person who has dementia or ALZ. One thing you will need to consider is, if he does have dementia or cognitive loss, he can tell you things that are not true but that *he* believes is true. Please read other posts on this forum from adult children caregivers whose own parents accused them of egregious acts of physical and financial abuse and none of it was true because this is what can happen when you have a broken mind. My auntie who helped raise me is 98 and has dementia has accused me and her caregivers of stabbing her, robbing her, etc. Calling APS (and depending on what they find) may get your aunt and cousin into serious trouble resulting in your grandfather becoming a ward of the county and being permanently removed from his home into a facility. If he has serious decline you, at your young age and financial condition, will not realistically be able to provide all the care he needs (depending on what his needs actually are). Many loving family members are son overwhelmed by what is required to take care of another person. This is all IF his story isn't what it seems to be. Then again, he could be completely in his right mind and telling you the truth -- but then why is he not able to defend himself at 67? Does he have a physical disability or problems with mental illness or addictions? Is the house he is in owned by him? If so he has the power to evict them. He has the power to go to the bank and make sure those 2 aren't accessing his money. My own mother is 91 and in no way would even 3 people be able to control her. I'm not trying to scare, discourage or overwhelm you but you must know the entire picture so you can make better decisions and have full context. If you call APS and they find nothing, there is nothing more to be done for him at this point. But if you see evidence of physical injuries on him you should definitely call 911 or APS right away. I wish you success in providing the help he needs!

Dear MissBianca88,

I am so sorry about what is happening to your grandfather at the hands of your aunt and cousin.

I know you a very worried about him and that you are having difficulty not being able to sleep due to not knowing how to help him.
Please contact Adult Protective Services (APS) in the state your grandfather resides in. You can get their phone number by calling 1-800-677-1116. APS is for suspicion of abuse, neglect or exploitation.

Your grandfather is very lucky to have someone like you who is looking out for his well being and who truly loves him.

I wish you the best and hope you will please update us!

You might seek legal advice to get some options on how to help. The attorney can provide you with things you’ll need as evidence, as well as who you might call if want to report the situation for an investigation.

Is he competent? If he suffers from dementia, I’d be careful to double check what he’s saying. Sometimes, people with dementia have delusions and say things that are not true. If he’s being mistreated, he needs help. That’s for sure.