My father and mother were abusive parents. Mom has passed away and now my 87 year old father has moved to the town where me and my sons live. I have moved in with him and my grandsons who he has never met (because he and my mother never wanted them over to their house) came to visit and he has done nothing but yell at them for nothing and says really awful things to them...Example: "Get out of here....just shut up...just shut up..I don't want to hear you!" He is brutal! The boys even though they didn't know him at all called him grandpa and tried to say goodnight and I love you at their bedtime...he never once has said he loves them back...is a cold fish! I get it....he is an a**hole. I will never have the boys around him again. But he has attacked me numerous times verbally..he drinks about 5 beers a day and has been drinking scotch as well. He is on coumadin also... everything I say to him all I get is the answer..."bullsh*t" and he is saying horrible things to me. As a father he would beat on me anytime my mom asked without question. He saw my mother hit me with numerous things and allowed it to happen...the worst beating I got was the day I came down with Rubella and was very sick. He had been quite nice to my youngest son and I as we moved ALL his belongings after my mom passed and it seemed tolerable until my grandsons (9 and 6) came to visit me this summer. He has acted like a complete troll!!! Constantly muttering rotten things under his breath to everyone and has literally yelled terrible things at my grandsons over and over. I have told him if he chooses to treat us this way he can be alone and find someone else to live here and help him out. He is not ill and does not need personal care. He just wanted us to take care of things because he can't do the things he used to to do. I still have to work and I get on very well with my sons and grandsons...I have not carried on this tradition of abuse in my family and take a big offense to him trying to keep it going. Is there a place to get some sort of help as to how to handle this? He drinks more and more all the time. He started drinking again when my mom became ill. He obviously has a problem and I told him he needs to stop but he gets very defensive and rude.