My 84 year old mother lives in Hawaii, I'm in CA. I visit her quarterly to help with admin things. She is starting to make dreadful accounting errors ie: Writing a check for $12,000 when the intended amount was $1,200!
When I try to address my concerns, she goes ballistic. She has had three strokes and a dx of Alzheimer's several years ago. She is in complete and utter denial about her deficits. Currently, she's being supported by caring neighbors who look in on her frequently. They all have said privately that they think she needs AL, which mother is adamant about avoiding. She lives on a meager SS income and cannot afford live-in care.
How do I keep her from writing checks? Do I have to get her declared incompetent? I am very reluctant to do this but extremely worried about protecting her.