My mom is 78, has terrible mobility, CHF, breathing issues, depression, low O2 saturation, she self-medicates, is defiant with her assisted living facility just to act out and resist losing her independence and she’s extremely lazy and doesn’t clean up after herself and would be surrounded in filth if not for the staff at her facility. She is not allowed to manage her own meds and has been told repeatedly if she keeps buying over the counter cbd supplements she will get kicked out, but she keeps buying it anyway. She lives in a small town 3 hours from me and there are no other options for her. I refuse to even consider her moving either near me or in with me and my family because she is in the perfect place for her. It’s her responsibility if she screws this up. I have POA if a doc says she’s not competent, and her doctor and I are getting close to thinking that’s where we are. Really I guess just looking for support that at a certain point I can’t stop my life for her bad decisions. I truly think if she gets kicked out, she’ll be homeless and/or die.
Stick to your guns and know that it's HER decision from here.
Also, see:
https://outofthefog.website
Your best bet it to do nothing. After she has been living in a cardboard box under a bridge for awhile she might figure a few things out.
The best option is that they kick her out by sending to the ER. And you tell the hospital social workers that there is no place for her to live; they need to find her a placement.
You, as POA, work with them to find placement.
Have you considered resigning your POA and having her become a ward of the state?