She is 93 and up all night! She is back and forth to the bathroom, straightening out the quilt on the bed, going through her desk, etc. Over and over again. Never spends more than 15 minutes at a time in the bed. Sometimes as short as 5 minutes before she up again. The doctor has prescribed multiple medications and nothing works. She is a fall risk and I can’t stay up all night!
tou have a lot in your plate.
Tweak out her routine so she doesn’t sleep so much in the day.. and if she has a medical bed, lower it all the way down. Maybe push it against the wall and maybe a chair or something on the other side.
Adult day care? Get her in a daily social activity. Maybe..?
If you have the time, take her to the grocery store, grab a cart and both if you push it around. Take her to the library.
My neighbor is 95. We always meet at our other neighbor’s house… wine time. It makes everyone happy..
it’s so wonderful that we do this. It is social hour almost every night fir them. I will mosey over a night or two.. like it’s so far….
she doesn’t look 95, nor does she act like she’s 95. But she did listen to her doctor and gave up her drivers license.
It also might be worth it to employ somebody to be a sitter during the night. Hoping the sitter will be temporary until you can get your loved one to sleep through the night.
The fact that nothing works to keep mom asleep, and that dh is dealing with melanoma, and you with your own health matters, think about placing mom in Memory Care Assisted Living now.
Taking care of mom at home has to work for everyone in the household and clearly it isn't.
Best of luck to you
Not everything can be fixed, as you are witness to. I am, again, so very sorry, but this is the reality.
From your profile you say that you're caring for your husband who has some heath issues and you yourself have some issues as well, and sleep is so very important for you both when trying to heal or just function.
So it looks like it's time to have your mother placed in the appropriate facility where she will be taken care of 24/7 and you and hubby can get the much needed sleep you both need. I mean really...are you really willing to give up your health and well being for your mother? You know she wouldn't want that if she were in her right mind.
Other than yourself, your husband should be your number one priority right now and if no one is getting sleep, something has to give and someone has to go, and guess who that is? That's right....your mother.
I wish you well in finding the best facility for her where you can get back to just being her daughter and advocate and not her burned out, sleep deprived walking zombie of a caregiver.
She's 93 and lived a full life. You haven't. Time to put yourself first.