My great uncle served in the Vietnam war and then got married to his wife of 50+years. When I went to visit him last his wife was all out of sorts suffering from major dementia. I do not know if she has been diagnosed but she doesn't remember my uncle on bad days. He is considering assisted living but has two concerns, first the money and second his wife can be violent when she is confused and he is worried about staff members getting rough with her. What are the options when it comes to Veterans spouses and assisted living?