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My own are to finally get into a doctor and get a whole health workup while we have insurance. Who knows how long that will last???

To get a good therapist to learn how to tell my mom 'no' when I need to do that for my own sanity. I've made baby steps through the whole fear/obligation/guilt thing on my own, but I realize I need professional guidance. (!) It's almost four years on this journey, and if anything I feel worse than when it started. Not good.

It's a year to be good to me. When I'm back on track, I know in my heart that I can be a better person to everyone...even my mom...LOL!

Happier New Year to all of you! It's been a pleasure to share stories with all of you. I am thankful for the strength and horrors and most of all, laughs, along the way. You all are dear!

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Wonderful plans, Windytown! You've got a good plan. Most of us caregivers need to be better to ourselves and remind ourselves that being human isn't bad, give ourselves some latitude to be imperfect, and try to work on our own health - physical and mental. Happy New Year to you, too!
Carol
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I am looking forward to 2015 for many reasons. Mainly, it is the year of NEW beginnings for me.

I intend to make a career change that I've been considering for years.

I intend to reach my goal weight. This year, I've lost 30 pounds so far.

I intend to stabilize my blood sugar levels. I'm a Type I diabetic and have a good A!C, but too many lows.

I intend to attend more concerts this year. I'm a huge music lover and didn't attend any in 2014.

I intend to rekindle some old friendships and build some new ones. Love is in the air!

I intend to take my life back. 2014 was devoted to others, 2015 will be used to focus more on taking care of my needs.

AND I'm going to a friends' New Year's Party tonight and one tomorrow too. I can hardly wait to see some old friends I haven't seen in a long time.

Happy New Year to all of you wonderful and kind people on this site! I realize if you are here, you are a special person. Take care of yourself. I wish you all the best for this upcoming year.
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Hmmmmm... My hopes for this New Year are to take better care of me.
Mom has been with me for two years now. There isn't anything physically wrong with Mom, she just has no filter anymore and makes rude comments about people on TV. She needs to have constant attention about how young she looks, how much better she looks than that person on TV. She is 93. Plus she goes on and on and on about her past, how people have taken advantage of her financially. Yikes. I have finally learned to walk out of her room, " Gotta go do the dishes Mom". I don't need to listen to this stuff over and over. This just reminds me of growing up with her. At first I felt guilty walking out, but Mom goes to sleep and wakes up in a slightly happier mood.
My problem in learning to deal with her "opinions" and criticism is to eat and drink. Lots and lots of ice cream and alcohol.. Well..... I've gained some weight both physically and mentally. I am taking a much needed break from work, FMLA. Although I am still taking care of Mom, I can rest and putter around the house.
My son is moving out on his own in a few months and my husband has decided that his old room is going to be my sewing room. Yaay hubby. I would love to get back to sewing and crafting again. I am starting again with my therapist. Instead of focusing on Mom, I will focus on me and my life. Happy New Year to everyone, one step at a time and one day at a time. God Bless.
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I am going to get some hobbies, embrodiery or sewing maybe. Take some art classes. I always wanted to be a potter. I am so grateful for my therapist. Find a good one; that you have a good rapport and who shares your humor. Good luck here's to a great year.

You know what you have inspired me. I am going to top bitching about my siblings who don't help, and be grateful to the ones who do help.
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i have a list of things i need to improve on . none of it can be accomplished until i learn to eat healthier foods . diet wasnt so important ten years ago but im 56 now and the body requires some changes in order to remain healthy . i need strength and stamina because the work i do can kill you if you dont eat and rest properly . my 80 lbs of potatoes are canned up with green beans and ham bits already in the jars . thats a great diet improvement over everclear and ice cream ..
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Thanks Carol! Happy New Year! Now just to follow through with that plan....

Sunnygirl1, Congrats on the weight loss. You are well on your way to a healthier New Year. Hope you have a great time reconnecting with old friends.

Cactusflower123, Good on you for learning to walk away. I've added that to my skill list lately when I'm about ready to scream. My tongue has callouses from me biting it so much. Hope your New Year is very crafty. :) It's a wonderful escape and so satisfying to create something. Love it!

kathyt1, I love making pottery. It's been too many years and no access to a kiln in my hinterlands. Fimo clay is all good for crafty things. I incorporate it as faces into papier mache figures I plan to get back into. Gotta grab the joy! Thanks for the therapist advice. Went to a stick up the you know what therapist 14 years ago and practically ran screaming away. I'll treat the search like looking for the perfect sweater that fits just right. :) I'm older and wiser now, if I wouldn't settle for the wrong sweater, why would I settle for a bad fit with a therapist? I'm going on a 'shopping' spree! LOL

captain, I'm 54 myself. Indulged in our once a year crab legs with lotsa buttah! I also plan on eating healthier for better energy. I'm a scratch cook for the most part, not a lot of fast food, etc. My scratch food has to veer away from winter comfort foods slathered in gravy and my quest to make the perfect homemade pizza. I know how to eat in a better fashion, I just haven't wanted to - wah!

I do like creme de menthe and ice cream. Thanks, you gave me a craving. :)
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Happy New Year to all! I'm also going to start taking better care of myself and get rid of some of those 'bad' habits. A new art center just open in my little town and I'd love to learn how to do ceramics and get back to working with clay! I want to start each day with at least one good thought (before I get depressed :-D ). Linda
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