Or how to determine which stage my mother is in? Mom no longer try to use the regular bathroom she just sit and use her pull ups. I hate cleaning her behind, but I know it has to be done. She walks and usually is always messing with things, therefore, I have to really watch her 24/7 to make sure she's not getting into the wrong thing. She constantly walks without her walker, again, 24/7 telling her to get her walker. She's on bleed thinner and I really don't want her to fall. I understand that she has dementia, but there are times when I really see her old nature (her stubbornness) especially when I tell her to do something and if she doesn't want to do it, she usually just look at me and just stand there. This really causes me to get upset, but I am learning to walk away. I hear many say, "if it's not a harm to them, then let them do." I really don't agree. Maybe it is a battle of the will! Thank you for allowing me to air out. I usually write my prayers, but it also helps to have others who are sharing the same problems to give you encouragement. Thanks!